How To Get Your Dream Girl
Since day one, I have always been consistent – getting that dream girlfriend- this is what it’s all about.
And what’s amazing is that actually “picking up a girl” has nothing to do with getting a fantastic girlfriend for real.
You can pick up a thousand women, get their numbers, and even get that first date, even get a million first dates with women, and then NEVER have that turn into a woman wanting to see the guy again. So a guy can pick up tons of women, and get a thousand first dates, and still NEVER get a girlfriend.
This is just one tip of the iceberg of what the dating gurus and pick up artists don’t want you to know. They get too caught up on getting “digits” or phone numbers, or on getting some drunk girl at a club, etc, etc, and then passing that off as the same thing as actually getting a fantastic woman- that kind of “dream girl” that every man wants.
So learning to how to get that dream girl for yourself, that was my only goal, a goal that, after two decades of raw and painful research, I figured out how to accomplish, not just for myself, but how ANY man who is looking to accomplish this goal, can achieve it as well, no matter who he is.
So let’s cut straight to the chase on some GOLDEN insights on how to get that dream woman.
ONE:
Have you ever heard that EYE CONTACT is important?
Well, it is, but if you don’t understand the REASON for why it’s important, then you will not do it properly, and when it comes to attracting a woman, HOW you do something counts just as much as WHAT you do.
So the problem is that many men have heard that eye contact with a woman is important, but they have been told it’s because this shows CONFIDENCE, it shows that you are not afraid, etc, etc, etc.
Well, this is only the TIP of the iceberg actually.
The FULL TRUTH is that a woman wants to be SEEN FOR WHO SHE REALLY IS, not just for her superficial self. And the eyes are the windows to the soul, so to speak. If you don’t look her in the eyes when you speak, you are NEVER truly allowing yourself to see her for who she is.
Before you think this is just a superficial thing, think about this: Ever notice how hard it is to LIE to someone when you are looking them straight in the eyes?
There is a feeling of HONESTY when two people are truly seeing “eye to eye” – this is why the phrase “seeing eye to eye” to describe two people in harmony, developed over the years.
So the reality is that by giving a woman eye contact, and looking deep into her eyes, you are not just SHOWING YOUR OWN value and confidence, but you are also GIVING so much more as well.
See? You are actually GIVING in a way that is SEXY and ATTRACTIVE and CHARISMATIC.
The OTHER element here that makes the eye contact even MORE powerful is your ability to be able to ABSORB the eye contact she is giving YOU. When you feel unworthy, you tend to look away, and yet that makes a woman feel that you are somehow UNTRUSTWORTHY.
She is feeling “why is this guy looking away from me?” and “What is he hiding?”
So lack of eye contact also disrupts the flow of TRUST, which is so important in creating that all important CONNECTION with a woman so she can unleash her sexuality and let go with you. Without that trust and connection, it’s never going to be a strong sexual connection, that’s for sure. She will be very limited, because she can’t truly let go of her inhibitions with you.
So, now that you understand the REAL reasons for eye contact, you will do it not in a HARSH way, but in a GIVING, and LOVING WAY.
Yes, this is TRULY the way of the confident, MAN, the man who is flowing with ABUNDANCE of charisma, confidence, who knows he has value. THIS is the way to behave. Do NOT think of eye contact just as some type of display of your ability to show that you can confront her, eye to eye. Instead, think of it as your ability to show that you want to see DEEP INTO HER IDENTITY, for who she really is.
Remember, emotions are not logical- and though this looking into her eyes thing might not TOTALLY seem logical, the reality is that it FEELS very powerful, just think of how it feels when a woman looks deep into YOUR eyes, and how hard it is to not look away when she is so amazingly beautiful, if you are not used to it. So get USED to it, and start learning to keep eye contact.
If you are new to all this, practice when walking on the street, keep eye contact with a woman, and let HER be the first one to look away.
When you look into a woman’s eyes, you make her feel like you are looking into her for who she really is, beyond just her body, and the reality is that you will FEEL this way too, so you really are helping BOTH of you to see each other on an emotionally deep level as well. So be a GIVER and do this.
In our crazy culture, we’re conditioned to do anything EXCEPT make eye contact, as if was WRONG to develop this powerful of an emotional connection to another person, when in reality if we all did this we might have a more CONNECTED society, but you can take advantage of the fact that no one ELSE does this and be the man who is that much more SPECIAL and charismatic with a woman because you are one of the few men who actually DO make that eye contact.
TWO:
And here’s ANOTHER important distinction to make–the whole idea of making cocky jokes with a woman, it’s not necessary, and when it DOES work, it ONLY works when you are doing it through the FILTER of being a GIVER, not a taker…A woman senses this as TRUE confidence…
Let me give you an example- if I make fun of a woman, I will do it in a way where it is absolutely clear that what I am saying CANNOT BE TRUE. So if she is an A+ student and gorgeous, then I can tease her for having no future, and she will LAUGH and love it.
Because it shows that I am just playing with her. But to actually say things that ENDANGER a woman’s sense of self-esteem is INSANE and will ALWAYS lead to problems, because even if a woman doesn’t IMMEDIATELY strike back at you for this, eventually she WILL. GUARANTEED.
And the few times she doesn’t strike back at you? That’s because she has already determined that the “tactic” was a result of insecurity and low self-esteem, that the guy felt he needed to do that, so she ignores it, makes the guy feel like he said something brilliant or she ignores it, (out of pity for the guy with low self esteem) then goes on to another man and forgets the guy with the insult forever.
Having to resort to insults to a woman to show that you are not “under her thumb” would be a very PRIMITIVE way of showing that she is not controlling your thoughts or emotions and that she is not “all that”…
This is why I am totally against the idea of doing this, contrary to dating television shows that suggest that these insults are the way to get a woman’s interest. This kind of info is almost like a conspiracy, as it SOUNDS interesting, but actually HARMS guys’ results with women.
THREE:
And here’s ANOTHER golden tip- the whole idea of WOMEN TESTING MEN–is completely misunderstood.
If women so naturally create tests, to determine if you are “man enough”, then does it make sense to try to FAKE your way through her testing system by learning “lines” or learning how
ACT arrogant or trying to be arrogant???? Well, that’s what most “experts” suggest You do, to act arrogant or to show you are in power.
Do you really think that such a powerful primal tool that has lasted for millions of years in a woman’s brain could so easily be overpowered??
NO, the REAL way to pass a woman’s test is to actually BE the man.. not how to PRETEND to not be “under her spell” etc,
And how do you do this? You do this by understanding first of all what REAL confidence is, what the REAL reason behind all these “attractive behaviors” is… so for example the EYE contact for is not to so much to show that you are NOT AFRAID of her, but to show that you are confident enough to want to TRULY UNDERSTAND her, that you want to see her for who she really is… and the eye contact is also extremely impressive in a culture that says “no eye contact” a culture that says you should just “leave me ALONE…” when deep down people CRAVE a feeling of a special CONNECTION, and almost NO ONE is getting that connection!!!
So, when you actually DO all these things, that are actually a form of GIVING, guess what happens? You got it–a woman then sees there is NO NEED to test you in the FIRST place!!!!! If a woman is testing You all the time, then either she is the Wrong woman, or you are DOING things to MAKE her need to test you!!!!!
And definitely, following the “give her the arrogant behavior” and “sugar coated insults” and other behaviors that show untrustworthiness and shady character will all make her feel the NEED to test you for all sorts of things, from your manliness to your sense of integrity and honesty.
What you have just read is just a GLIMPSE into a whole other dimension that you can be living in with the woman of your dreams.
If you want to get the BIGGER PICTURE, and learn how to get a fantastic girlfriend, then download my special eBook package, “Get A Great Girl: How To Be The Man A Quality Woman Wants For Life”, IMMEDIATELY.
And I’ll see you again soon…
Your friend,
Bobby
