The Easiest Way To Attract Women
Guest article by Michael W. Author of the ebook “Get A Great Girl”
How would you like to learn to attract a quality woman using LESS energy, LESS effort, and less headaches?
Get ready to hear how a man has applied the Get A Great Girl materials and trainings!, lowering the energy level is doing wonders.
And you know what? It feels a hell of a lot more natural to be that way – I think I was just used to getting results with high energy, but like you very correctly said it feels more real to the girls when I am with ‘minimum energy’.
More importantly it feels better for me too.
Also this way, I notice that this way, I tend to make them giggle and laugh lightly throughout the conversation instead of making them go super intense laughter all out at the beginning, and this definitely sends out a stronger signal of my personality – especially when I do it with ‘minimal effort’.
It is definitely also good to know that I can always tap into the high energy part should I need it.
That said I have a lot to improve on. Especially making the process more efficient and truly finding out more about the girls’ personalities.
I will let you know of my progress and stories later on ( I’ve had 4 genuine interactions with girls who are very attractive over the past 24 hours – not all of them matched what I was looking for in a woman- but two of them I’d
definitely like to get to know more).
Thanks again Michael. It was an excellent bootcamp experience and it was great to spend time with someone who has similar perspectives to what I have about life in general. I will get back to you with any questions that may crop up later on.
In the mean time should you want a full detailed review, just let me know. I’d be more than happy to send a genuine and sincere review. Let me know. Feel free to use any excerpts from my this email should you find it to be useful. Hope all is well!
Sincerely,
Charles K.
Los Angeles, California
>>>MY REPLY<<<
Thank you first of all for the warm message.
Isn’t it AWESOME how actually LOWERING the energy is, in your own words, doing WONDERS?
High energy brings a lot of short term reactions, that often fizzle out by the time you ask for the number or by the time you call her.
But don’t all the “experts” tell us to be “he arrogant, cocky, hilarious guy”?
When a guy learns a tactic that gets a woman doing anything too MAJOR or too strong too fast, even something like laughing REALLY HARD right at the outset, it’s usually NOT a good thing.
The reason for this is because even though the woman might be laughing really hard at first, or feeling really mesmerized, she will then quickly feel that something is not CONGRUENT.
By the word “congruent” I mean “consistent”. Something is not matching up, something is not “right” about the situation.
And a woman would be right to be feeling this, since after all, it was NOT a natural interaction, the guy WAS trying too hard to get a reaction, the guy WAS using a “line”, the guy was NOT being himself.
And there’s no way out of the dangers of using the pick up artist and wannabe dating guru tactics. A woman has learned to be cautious, for good reason. The more serious she is about looking for a real man to be her lover, her boyfriend, for something long term and meaningful, the MORE alert she will be to any signs of something being shady or sketchy.
The key is to always use the MINIMUM ENERGY you need in an interaction in order to make sufficient impact to keep the conversation going.
You applied this extremely well, including that time you ended up having a twenty minute conversation with that girl in the bookstore during bootcamp! You were doing so well with her, even after getting her number she still wanted to keep on chatting with you!
For the guys reading this, I should explain that Charles was having a one-to-one conversation with a very pretty creature, and it was NOT “over the top”, he was NOT acting like a clown, he was NOT getting her laughing like crazy, he was NOT doing anything weird, he had truly ADVANCED “game” that is NOT a game- in fact, within a few minutes of his interaction, it looked as if he and this girl had known each other intimately for YEARS.
The smile on her face, the relaxed look she had in her body language toward him, leaning into him.
So what did Charles do to get all this happening?
Well for one thing, he had practiced learning how to tap into his natural sense of calm and his positive nature. He learned to avoid the dangers of “black and white” thinking- black and white thinking is what creates massive pressure on us when we try to approach a woman, and we think that success equals paradise and failure equals disaster or the destruction of our identity.
He learned exactly HOW to embrace his worst fears over and over again till he got desensitized to them and built up a resistance to this kind of pressure.
He didn’t try to get into “the zone” and instead he removed all emotional labels from things, realizing that things are simply what they are, which allows you to take away the negative power of just about any situation that can arise in interacting with a woman.
This way, you are on a level plane that is the real you, no need for you to have to get all pumped and get into some “zone” that really would exhaust you very quickly if that was the only way you used to get into state to attract a woman.
He didn’t try to be mr.pick up artist, rather the woman could tell that he was relaxed and upbeat and not trying to prove ANYTHING to her, all from the way he used his VOICE as I train men to do.
And this training is partially about learning but also partially about UNLEARNING all the things that hold you BACK from using your voice to reflect all these cool emotions inside you.
And he also had CONVICTION in the things he was saying, he was revealing himself so he was not acting and this belief and total conviction came across as very masculine, confident, and even calming.
I hate to quote the “dog whisperer” in how dogs can sense your energy and if you are feeling fear or not, but the truth is that all human beings, and especially women, can detect what emotional frequency you are on, subconsciously this always happens.
And the women could tell that Charles was only saying the things that he truly did believe in, and that he was calm about it in the way of true confidence that could not be broken down even if she did happen to disagree with him on some of his viewpoints.
And another thing, he paid SERIOUS ATTENTION to what the woman was saying. He listened to her responses, which gave him the perfect things to say back- they were all genuine comments based on what SHE had said.
Every single “pick up artist” and dating guru out there tells you “say this and she will say YES” which is a total crock of horsey-poo because there is no such thing as the perfect thing to say—rather you need to LISTEN to what a woman is saying to you, so you can respond WELL.
And you need to REALLY care. If you don’t, it won’t work. She’ll sense that.
Most human beings think they are listening, but the truth is that they are actually NOT listening well at all, in fact most people filter out just about everything they hear if it doesn’t agree with their own perspective, they filter it out so powerfully that they don’t even HEAR the words that don’t agree!
Maybe you’ve heard of the experiment where guys were told to watch a group of guys in black t-shirts passing a ball to each other, and while this happened, a gorrilla was actually walking in the background, but NO ONE noticed this because they were too busy watching the ball being passed.
Not only do we not see what we don’t expect to see, we also create “blind spots” in our LISTENING skills as well- we don’t HEAR what we don’t agree with and we don’t hear what we don’t recognize– so imagine how easy it is to not truly hear a woman’s words to you when those words are coming from a female perspective that is different!
Now, imagine how terrible the communication probably is between a man and a woman who don’t know each other at all and are meeting for the FIRST TIME!!!! And the guy is under stress too, from trying to be cool!!!
And then on top of that, the guy is being told by supposed “EXPERTS” not to listen to a woman but to be all “alpha” and not listen to her and be the boss and to instead just uselessly try to make some cheesy pick up lines work!!!!! All this instead of learning the skills of TRULY LISTENENING, and this is a skill, it is something that requires learning, it’s NOT as simple as people think at all.
And we are told by these “experts” that listening is for “WUSSES”!!!!
The truth is, it takes a REAL MAN to be secure enough to be able to TRULY give another person a chance at being heard, to truly let another person’s perspective to have a chance at being respected and honored before jumping to the conclusion that if it disagrees with our own, it must be a crappy perspective.
Is it any wonder that things are so tough for men when it comes to getting a great woman?
A great woman has her internal act together as well, she’s not just attractive on the outside- and I assure you that if she has her act together and her listening skills together, and she is secure enough to listen well to you, she will not stick with a man if he is too weak to listen properly because he is afraid that even HEARING another perspective will somehow threaten him.
I used to be the WORST at this. I HATED the idea of “communication” with women. I believed all the crazy stuff I was told by dating gurus. But the reality is, if we as men follow their “no communication” advice, we WILL STILL be communicating to women, but doing it BADLY- we will be communicating that we are insecure.
This is just the tip of the ICEBERG of the skills that I teach. And of course, this has nothing to do with being a “nice guy”- in fact, it’s IMPORTANT that you DO have conviction in what you say to a woman, and that you don’t just let your opinions get disrespected,but the key to showing this conviction is to state your opinion CALMLY and FOLLOW your convictions calmly, with quiet strength, not by acting all emotional about it.
If we really believe in something, the way to show a woman we are serious is to be CALM and consistent and CLEAR about it.
The more emotional we get, the more we are showing fear, and the truth is, if we REALLY believed something was the right thing and we were so clear on what to do, we WOULD be calm about it and not feel pressured or threatened by anyone else.
When communicating to a woman, you want to be totally under control. It’s not about controlling women, it truly is about controlling the self and learning to improve the self.
And that’s why it’s fantastic to hear you say that this “minimum energy” feels a “hell of a lot more natural to be that way”. It IS.
Once you develop these skills for real, then meeting and attracting the women of your choice feels like there is NO effort.
There is no more need to have to “get into the zone” because you ARE “the zone” always, it IS you. YOU become attractive, on the deepest level of who you ARE.
This way, because the conversation becomes very easy for you and easy to make it flow, you also end up making the women laugh throughout the conversation, since your brain is now freed up from having to spend tons of energy on all kinds of useless things like memorizing pick up lines or trying to be the boss or trying to apply some tactic that feels totally un-natural on every level.
So all that extra brainpower can now be applied to humor- think of it like a computer who has now had its processor freed up to do important work.
Of course, when you also learn the keys behind ALL humor, as I teach you, you are able to find the funny moments in things even easier!
And at the same time, you can be having a serious discussion and then something humorous comes up, and you both laugh naturally at it, breaking the tension in a great way,and also allowing you to now get back with her to building a powerful and serious connection, now that you had a short break from the serious convo so you both have energy to get “serious” again.
And because you are LISTENING and CARING at the highest level, you can contribute effective and meaningful feedback, which makes her interested in the conversation, and interested in YOU.
And the fact you had the guts to do this while every OTHER guy who talks to her uses cheesy tactics based on oversimplification, YOU are the one she wants, you are the guy who feels REAL, while the other guys are the ones that seem shady, and sketchy, and fake, and she wants to AVOID those guys like the plague.
And of course, there is a TIME for the higher- energy stuff. For example, in a crazy loud club or pub on a Saturday night or something like that when everyone is going crazy and most people are drunk —but even THERE, if you wanted to get the kind of women that are there, and you probably don’t want those kinds of women for the most part, even THERE the reality is that you only want to put in the MINIMUM “higher energy” that you need.
So you basically are matching the woman’s energy level always, and actually giving just a bit MORE energy at first, so this way you are the giver and not the person bringing the energy down.
But from there, you slowly bring the energy to a more calm zone.
Of course, there’s no way to do full justice to this topic in a newsletter, and there is so much more detail I would like to mention to give the FULL picture, but this should at least give some serious insight onto what actually WORKS.
You can start a conversation with many different types of comments, but you never want to start with something that shows lack of respect, vulgarity, or weakness. You can comment on anything in the situation, but what I like to do is find something that actually says something GOOD about her, that is GENUINE.
So if a woman is reading a book in the award winning literary section of the bookstore, you might start with “Nice to see that there are still people who read literature instead of watching MTV” and say this calmly, not in a big clown way.
Regarding creating a powerful connection, the key is to LISTEN TO HER RESPONSE so that you can MAKE HER FEEL GOOD in a genuine way. Congruency is key, as a woman will usually KNOW when you are faking. I get into all this in SUPER DETAIL in my materials and in my live training programs of course.
So, you want to be listening to something in her reply that either provides evidence of her good character, her intelligence, or something else positive about her, or at least something she says that you can comment on that will lead the conversation somewhere INTRIGUING AND MEANINGFUL. And this is a whole topic into itself for another time!
Cheers,
Michael (Author of the ebook “Get A Great Girl“
How To Get Your Dream Girl
Since day one, I have always been consistent – getting that dream girlfriend- this is what it’s all about.
And what’s amazing is that actually “picking up a girl” has nothing to do with getting a fantastic girlfriend for real.
You can pick up a thousand women, get their numbers, and even get that first date, even get a million first dates with women, and then NEVER have that turn into a woman wanting to see the guy again. So a guy can pick up tons of women, and get a thousand first dates, and still NEVER get a girlfriend.
This is just one tip of the iceberg of what the dating gurus and pick up artists don’t want you to know. They get too caught up on getting “digits” or phone numbers, or on getting some drunk girl at a club, etc, etc, and then passing that off as the same thing as actually getting a fantastic woman- that kind of “dream girl” that every man wants.
So learning to how to get that dream girl for yourself, that was my only goal, a goal that, after two decades of raw and painful research, I figured out how to accomplish, not just for myself, but how ANY man who is looking to accomplish this goal, can achieve it as well, no matter who he is.
So let’s cut straight to the chase on some GOLDEN insights on how to get that dream woman.
ONE:
Have you ever heard that EYE CONTACT is important?
Well, it is, but if you don’t understand the REASON for why it’s important, then you will not do it properly, and when it comes to attracting a woman, HOW you do something counts just as much as WHAT you do.
So the problem is that many men have heard that eye contact with a woman is important, but they have been told it’s because this shows CONFIDENCE, it shows that you are not afraid, etc, etc, etc.
Well, this is only the TIP of the iceberg actually.
The FULL TRUTH is that a woman wants to be SEEN FOR WHO SHE REALLY IS, not just for her superficial self. And the eyes are the windows to the soul, so to speak. If you don’t look her in the eyes when you speak, you are NEVER truly allowing yourself to see her for who she is.
Before you think this is just a superficial thing, think about this: Ever notice how hard it is to LIE to someone when you are looking them straight in the eyes?
There is a feeling of HONESTY when two people are truly seeing “eye to eye” – this is why the phrase “seeing eye to eye” to describe two people in harmony, developed over the years.
So the reality is that by giving a woman eye contact, and looking deep into her eyes, you are not just SHOWING YOUR OWN value and confidence, but you are also GIVING so much more as well.
See? You are actually GIVING in a way that is SEXY and ATTRACTIVE and CHARISMATIC.
The OTHER element here that makes the eye contact even MORE powerful is your ability to be able to ABSORB the eye contact she is giving YOU. When you feel unworthy, you tend to look away, and yet that makes a woman feel that you are somehow UNTRUSTWORTHY.
She is feeling “why is this guy looking away from me?” and “What is he hiding?”
So lack of eye contact also disrupts the flow of TRUST, which is so important in creating that all important CONNECTION with a woman so she can unleash her sexuality and let go with you. Without that trust and connection, it’s never going to be a strong sexual connection, that’s for sure. She will be very limited, because she can’t truly let go of her inhibitions with you.
So, now that you understand the REAL reasons for eye contact, you will do it not in a HARSH way, but in a GIVING, and LOVING WAY.
Yes, this is TRULY the way of the confident, MAN, the man who is flowing with ABUNDANCE of charisma, confidence, who knows he has value. THIS is the way to behave. Do NOT think of eye contact just as some type of display of your ability to show that you can confront her, eye to eye. Instead, think of it as your ability to show that you want to see DEEP INTO HER IDENTITY, for who she really is.
Remember, emotions are not logical- and though this looking into her eyes thing might not TOTALLY seem logical, the reality is that it FEELS very powerful, just think of how it feels when a woman looks deep into YOUR eyes, and how hard it is to not look away when she is so amazingly beautiful, if you are not used to it. So get USED to it, and start learning to keep eye contact.
If you are new to all this, practice when walking on the street, keep eye contact with a woman, and let HER be the first one to look away.
When you look into a woman’s eyes, you make her feel like you are looking into her for who she really is, beyond just her body, and the reality is that you will FEEL this way too, so you really are helping BOTH of you to see each other on an emotionally deep level as well. So be a GIVER and do this.
In our crazy culture, we’re conditioned to do anything EXCEPT make eye contact, as if was WRONG to develop this powerful of an emotional connection to another person, when in reality if we all did this we might have a more CONNECTED society, but you can take advantage of the fact that no one ELSE does this and be the man who is that much more SPECIAL and charismatic with a woman because you are one of the few men who actually DO make that eye contact.
TWO:
And here’s ANOTHER important distinction to make–the whole idea of making cocky jokes with a woman, it’s not necessary, and when it DOES work, it ONLY works when you are doing it through the FILTER of being a GIVER, not a taker…A woman senses this as TRUE confidence…
Let me give you an example- if I make fun of a woman, I will do it in a way where it is absolutely clear that what I am saying CANNOT BE TRUE. So if she is an A+ student and gorgeous, then I can tease her for having no future, and she will LAUGH and love it.
Because it shows that I am just playing with her. But to actually say things that ENDANGER a woman’s sense of self-esteem is INSANE and will ALWAYS lead to problems, because even if a woman doesn’t IMMEDIATELY strike back at you for this, eventually she WILL. GUARANTEED.
And the few times she doesn’t strike back at you? That’s because she has already determined that the “tactic” was a result of insecurity and low self-esteem, that the guy felt he needed to do that, so she ignores it, makes the guy feel like he said something brilliant or she ignores it, (out of pity for the guy with low self esteem) then goes on to another man and forgets the guy with the insult forever.
Having to resort to insults to a woman to show that you are not “under her thumb” would be a very PRIMITIVE way of showing that she is not controlling your thoughts or emotions and that she is not “all that”…
This is why I am totally against the idea of doing this, contrary to dating television shows that suggest that these insults are the way to get a woman’s interest. This kind of info is almost like a conspiracy, as it SOUNDS interesting, but actually HARMS guys’ results with women.
THREE:
And here’s ANOTHER golden tip- the whole idea of WOMEN TESTING MEN–is completely misunderstood.
If women so naturally create tests, to determine if you are “man enough”, then does it make sense to try to FAKE your way through her testing system by learning “lines” or learning how
ACT arrogant or trying to be arrogant???? Well, that’s what most “experts” suggest You do, to act arrogant or to show you are in power.
Do you really think that such a powerful primal tool that has lasted for millions of years in a woman’s brain could so easily be overpowered??
NO, the REAL way to pass a woman’s test is to actually BE the man.. not how to PRETEND to not be “under her spell” etc,
And how do you do this? You do this by understanding first of all what REAL confidence is, what the REAL reason behind all these “attractive behaviors” is… so for example the EYE contact for is not to so much to show that you are NOT AFRAID of her, but to show that you are confident enough to want to TRULY UNDERSTAND her, that you want to see her for who she really is… and the eye contact is also extremely impressive in a culture that says “no eye contact” a culture that says you should just “leave me ALONE…” when deep down people CRAVE a feeling of a special CONNECTION, and almost NO ONE is getting that connection!!!
So, when you actually DO all these things, that are actually a form of GIVING, guess what happens? You got it–a woman then sees there is NO NEED to test you in the FIRST place!!!!! If a woman is testing You all the time, then either she is the Wrong woman, or you are DOING things to MAKE her need to test you!!!!!
And definitely, following the “give her the arrogant behavior” and “sugar coated insults” and other behaviors that show untrustworthiness and shady character will all make her feel the NEED to test you for all sorts of things, from your manliness to your sense of integrity and honesty.
What you have just read is just a GLIMPSE into a whole other dimension that you can be living in with the woman of your dreams.
If you want to get the BIGGER PICTURE, and learn how to get a fantastic girlfriend, then download my special eBook package, “Get A Great Girl: How To Be The Man A Quality Woman Wants For Life”, IMMEDIATELY.
And I’ll see you again soon…
Your friend,
Bobby
