The Shocking Truth About Nice Guys And Attracting A Woman

One of the most MASSIVE realizations I had when it came to women was that a lot of things are not what they appear to be.

So, for example, have you ever heard how “nice guys” don’t attract any women?

Maybe you’ve even wondered why things didn’t work when you treated women “very nicely”.

This kind of thing happens to MILLIONS of men, so you are not alone.

However, the problem is that the answer is NOT to become jerks or to try to act like pick up artists or players. If this actually worked, the problem would have been solved for all men a long time ago.

There is a reason why both being a “nice guy” and being an arrogant or cocky guy or being a player BOTH don’t work. It’s because the best kind of women are attracted to STRENGTH of character.

In fact, even women who are messed UP are often ALSO attracted to strength of character as well!

Now, when a man takes on the act of being a player or being arrogant or being a really slick pick up artist, he is actually conveying MASSIVE insecurity.

A woman who is already confident, can smell this insecurity from far away. She knows that a man who is secure would not need to OVERDO things so much.

So we already know that the pick up artist stuff doesn’t work to get a great woman, and in fact repels her.

So why does the “nice guy” stuff not work either? Well, the reason is because the truth is that “nice guys” actually are NOT that nice, as I will show you:

“Nice guys” are very MEAN to ONE person. In fact, they are mean to one person VERY CLOSE to them, the closest in fact: THEMSELVES.

So, for example, a man who keeps on calling a woman who does not return his calls, or a man who even spends too much time THINKING about a woman who is not giving him HALF the amount of energy that he is putting into chasing her, well this man is very MEAN actually.

He is MEAN to himself. He is basically telling himself and saying that he is NOT WORTH treating any BETTER than this.

Have you ever had a woman that you chased really HARD, and that you thought was somehow a SPECIAL person for some reason?

Usually, there IS no reason, we just FEEL that there is, but these feelings are the result of BAD CONDITIONING.

They can be overcome.

Women ARE attracted to strength of character, AND to goodness, but there is nothing strong and nothing GOOD about being a guy who allows himself to be abused, and even if he just doesn’t respect himself enough.

This is why I have decided to use the term “REINVENTING THE GOOD GUY” so that we stop thinking of GOOD as being something “nice” or weak, because in reality GOODNESS is the result of STRENGTH, and it’s NEVER self-abusive or self-hurting.

So the RIGHT way to be thinking about being CONFIDENT and CHARISMATIC is not to come to it from a “I AM THE BOSS OVER A WOMAN” angle but rather from true goodness, starting with being good to yourself.

And NOT from having to boss around a woman. In fact, the whole “I have to CONTROL a woman” through games, pick up artist tactics, or anything else always ends up showing up to a woman as insecurity and fear and looks very much like “wuss” behavior to her.

A woman can detect these fears and thoughts from the way you behave, in the same way you can often tell what your best friend is thinking or feeling before they even tell you, simply because you can tell and read his or her body language.

Well, women are good at reading body language because even as children they spend more time developing these skills whereas boys develop other skills better. So it’s really a waste of time to try to fake it with a woman, it’s far better to actually DEVELOP the right behaviors, and perspectives- this way a woman KNOWS you are for real.

So, make sure to first have a firm belief in your OWN value, not out of arrogance, but out of being your own best FRIEND. A woman, on an subconscious level, wants to see some PROOF that you are valuable, and if YOU don’t value yourself, how can she feel you have value?

Not only that, but if you believe that good people have value, if you REALLY believe that, then why would you ever allow yourself to chase after a woman who didn’t show any particularly great characteristics of her own?

When you stop obsessing with the superficial for REAL, you really DO show that you value character, and now two things happen- you suddenly find that more women are attracted to you, (because you are proving that there are other things of value besides the superficial and that you are one of those valuable people ) and you also find that you really ARE less obsessed now with the superficial- because actions become emotions, and your new lifestyle has given you new perspectives and new appreciation for the bigger picture.

Don’t get me wrong, of course you will want and you SHOULD want physical attraction in a woman, but you will be in the right balance to truly be a cool guy with all women. A MAN, not a boy playing “pick up artist”.

So the best combination is to be a GOOD guy with women, but also to be a good guy to YOURSELF and never, EVER do anything below your dignity to try to earn a woman’s approval – besides, chasing after her in itself is what will destroy her attraction to you. It’s like you are saying “I don’t feel I have value, but could YOU please treat me really well out of PITY?”

And this is EXACTLY the kind of reaction that is generated in a woman for a guy who is not truly good, but is just “nice” in a weak sense- she might feel PITY for him, but not ATTRACTION.

And you of course also end up ruining your own “inner game” this way because your actions are telling your brain that you are pathetic.

Now, I’d like to share a letter with you to show just how powerful this stuff is, to the point that you often don’t even have to DO anything because you are giving off all the millions of subtle signals through your demeanor and values and beliefs.