The First Step In Making A Woman Addicted To You
Guys are all over me asking for the secret to having a woman lust after them. Then they don’t beleive tha nswer that i give them.
Well, they wanted the secret and they got the real truth from me. If they don’t want to use the information, well, that leaves more quality women for the reast of us, right?
So what is that secret, what is the real truth about having a woman addicted to you?
Well, not so fast.
The first step in having a woman gushing over you is to be in control of your own emotions AND have the confidence in yourself that PROVES you are a quality man that DESERVES a quality woman.
Just as creativity expresses emotion, fear batters down hope. When you’re a guy that FEELS that he doesn’t DESERVE a great woman, then you become a self-fulfilling prophesy and a cycle of rejection that squeezes the dating life slowly out of you.
Is this DARK and TRUE enough for you?
The negative emotions that you let CONTROL your DESTINY with WOMEN need to be bansihed from surfacing ever again!
And how do you get rid of your negative emotions?
You face them.
In this case, for this first step, you need to write down all the fears you have about women. Every last one, from approaching women, to making small talk, conversations, asking for a date, asking for a second date… everything that comes to mind when you let your mind roll over the words “Women” and “Dating”.
Write them down. Take several days if you have to. I know it took me about 6 days to write everything down, and as I wrote other fears would be identified too.
Then, the second step, is to create an ACTION PLAN about CONFRONTING these woman-centric fears.
Afraid to approach women: Write down sevral scenarios where you approach women and are rejected by them. Think of all the ways women have said NO to YOU and approach women differently, already knowing how they will say NO, explore what needs to be said to PROVE they NEED to say YES to you.
If you refuse to do this second step then you EMBRACE REJECTION and all the crappy lies you tell yourself about why you can’t date women become TRUE for YOU.
Your FEARS win. YOU lose.
Sure, by not approaching women you never have to face rejection… sad but true.
Many men select this “safe route” throughout their lives. Without taking any RISKS they also have LESS failure, despite the very true fact that they have failed THEMSELVES!
Last thought:
When you next approach a woman, start off by asking yourself “How would I approach her if I already knew her and she loved me?”
The Biggest Secret A Guy Needs To Know About Attracting Women
Let’s get one thing straight, right off the block:
I don’t believe a word that supposed “dating gurus” tell you about picking up women, about the tactics that they teach to steal a woman away from her boyfriend, about how they distort the truth and lead you to believe that “tactics work because women want them to”.
Let me tell you, you don’t need to “control” women… you don’t need to resort to tests to break a woman’s self-confidence down so you can date her and treat her like an object, with bad ulterior objectives in mind.
What I want you to know is how to “test” a woman, not to see her breaking down to your control, but to determine her character, to test her to find out how to understand her, and on what basis a relationship could be started, if at all.
These supposed “dating gurus” want you to be able to pickup any woman you want, and if you don’t succeed, well, maybe you need more information from the $tore. They believe in quantity, not quality, and this leads to failure for you and more ca$h for them.
You need to learn about quality and how to find great women not just any woman, to date.
When you’re single and available, not every woman is a target, just as not every woman is of a quality that you would want to date.
Have you had any relationships in the past that were broken by jealousy and fear? Lack of trust issues?
The negative emotions that fed these feelings easily overcome the good qualities in women that attracted you in the first place… unless, of course, you didn’t understand how and why to attract quality women in the first place.
Back then your emotions had no background, no experience, with women of quality. So they did what emotions do, they follow the negative path, and allow something good to be replaced with something bad… and WHAMMO, a breakup.
It’s time to put to rest all these bad things.
You need to be able to identify them, give these bad emotions a name, and file them away, as exposed bad tricks on your conscious behavior.
This internal change, this challenge I place before you, will help you to grow, mature, and prepare yourself to meet quality, beautiful and trustworthy women. Not by the hundreds, not by the dozens, but by singular contacts, real impressions and tests of “character” that will reveal to you the inner beauty of the woman you seek to place into your life.
Let the liars lie to other men, let the women of low self-esteem and low self-image be the fodder of another guy.
Integrity without fear, no fear of rejection, or lowering of standards, and self-respect that brings you, yourself, into a whole new level of being… of attraction… of interactions with women.
Your first step is to open your mind to this new possibility of being yourself, with set standards and an ability to seek out and attract women of quality.
How To Get Your Dream Girl
Since day one, I have always been consistent – getting that dream girlfriend- this is what it’s all about.
And what’s amazing is that actually “picking up a girl” has nothing to do with getting a fantastic girlfriend for real.
You can pick up a thousand women, get their numbers, and even get that first date, even get a million first dates with women, and then NEVER have that turn into a woman wanting to see the guy again. So a guy can pick up tons of women, and get a thousand first dates, and still NEVER get a girlfriend.
This is just one tip of the iceberg of what the dating gurus and pick up artists don’t want you to know. They get too caught up on getting “digits” or phone numbers, or on getting some drunk girl at a club, etc, etc, and then passing that off as the same thing as actually getting a fantastic woman- that kind of “dream girl” that every man wants.
So learning to how to get that dream girl for yourself, that was my only goal, a goal that, after two decades of raw and painful research, I figured out how to accomplish, not just for myself, but how ANY man who is looking to accomplish this goal, can achieve it as well, no matter who he is.
So let’s cut straight to the chase on some GOLDEN insights on how to get that dream woman.
ONE:
Have you ever heard that EYE CONTACT is important?
Well, it is, but if you don’t understand the REASON for why it’s important, then you will not do it properly, and when it comes to attracting a woman, HOW you do something counts just as much as WHAT you do.
So the problem is that many men have heard that eye contact with a woman is important, but they have been told it’s because this shows CONFIDENCE, it shows that you are not afraid, etc, etc, etc.
Well, this is only the TIP of the iceberg actually.
The FULL TRUTH is that a woman wants to be SEEN FOR WHO SHE REALLY IS, not just for her superficial self. And the eyes are the windows to the soul, so to speak. If you don’t look her in the eyes when you speak, you are NEVER truly allowing yourself to see her for who she is.
Before you think this is just a superficial thing, think about this: Ever notice how hard it is to LIE to someone when you are looking them straight in the eyes?
There is a feeling of HONESTY when two people are truly seeing “eye to eye” – this is why the phrase “seeing eye to eye” to describe two people in harmony, developed over the years.
So the reality is that by giving a woman eye contact, and looking deep into her eyes, you are not just SHOWING YOUR OWN value and confidence, but you are also GIVING so much more as well.
See? You are actually GIVING in a way that is SEXY and ATTRACTIVE and CHARISMATIC.
The OTHER element here that makes the eye contact even MORE powerful is your ability to be able to ABSORB the eye contact she is giving YOU. When you feel unworthy, you tend to look away, and yet that makes a woman feel that you are somehow UNTRUSTWORTHY.
She is feeling “why is this guy looking away from me?” and “What is he hiding?”
So lack of eye contact also disrupts the flow of TRUST, which is so important in creating that all important CONNECTION with a woman so she can unleash her sexuality and let go with you. Without that trust and connection, it’s never going to be a strong sexual connection, that’s for sure. She will be very limited, because she can’t truly let go of her inhibitions with you.
So, now that you understand the REAL reasons for eye contact, you will do it not in a HARSH way, but in a GIVING, and LOVING WAY.
Yes, this is TRULY the way of the confident, MAN, the man who is flowing with ABUNDANCE of charisma, confidence, who knows he has value. THIS is the way to behave. Do NOT think of eye contact just as some type of display of your ability to show that you can confront her, eye to eye. Instead, think of it as your ability to show that you want to see DEEP INTO HER IDENTITY, for who she really is.
Remember, emotions are not logical- and though this looking into her eyes thing might not TOTALLY seem logical, the reality is that it FEELS very powerful, just think of how it feels when a woman looks deep into YOUR eyes, and how hard it is to not look away when she is so amazingly beautiful, if you are not used to it. So get USED to it, and start learning to keep eye contact.
If you are new to all this, practice when walking on the street, keep eye contact with a woman, and let HER be the first one to look away.
When you look into a woman’s eyes, you make her feel like you are looking into her for who she really is, beyond just her body, and the reality is that you will FEEL this way too, so you really are helping BOTH of you to see each other on an emotionally deep level as well. So be a GIVER and do this.
In our crazy culture, we’re conditioned to do anything EXCEPT make eye contact, as if was WRONG to develop this powerful of an emotional connection to another person, when in reality if we all did this we might have a more CONNECTED society, but you can take advantage of the fact that no one ELSE does this and be the man who is that much more SPECIAL and charismatic with a woman because you are one of the few men who actually DO make that eye contact.
TWO:
And here’s ANOTHER important distinction to make–the whole idea of making cocky jokes with a woman, it’s not necessary, and when it DOES work, it ONLY works when you are doing it through the FILTER of being a GIVER, not a taker…A woman senses this as TRUE confidence…
Let me give you an example- if I make fun of a woman, I will do it in a way where it is absolutely clear that what I am saying CANNOT BE TRUE. So if she is an A+ student and gorgeous, then I can tease her for having no future, and she will LAUGH and love it.
Because it shows that I am just playing with her. But to actually say things that ENDANGER a woman’s sense of self-esteem is INSANE and will ALWAYS lead to problems, because even if a woman doesn’t IMMEDIATELY strike back at you for this, eventually she WILL. GUARANTEED.
And the few times she doesn’t strike back at you? That’s because she has already determined that the “tactic” was a result of insecurity and low self-esteem, that the guy felt he needed to do that, so she ignores it, makes the guy feel like he said something brilliant or she ignores it, (out of pity for the guy with low self esteem) then goes on to another man and forgets the guy with the insult forever.
Having to resort to insults to a woman to show that you are not “under her thumb” would be a very PRIMITIVE way of showing that she is not controlling your thoughts or emotions and that she is not “all that”…
This is why I am totally against the idea of doing this, contrary to dating television shows that suggest that these insults are the way to get a woman’s interest. This kind of info is almost like a conspiracy, as it SOUNDS interesting, but actually HARMS guys’ results with women.
THREE:
And here’s ANOTHER golden tip- the whole idea of WOMEN TESTING MEN–is completely misunderstood.
If women so naturally create tests, to determine if you are “man enough”, then does it make sense to try to FAKE your way through her testing system by learning “lines” or learning how
ACT arrogant or trying to be arrogant???? Well, that’s what most “experts” suggest You do, to act arrogant or to show you are in power.
Do you really think that such a powerful primal tool that has lasted for millions of years in a woman’s brain could so easily be overpowered??
NO, the REAL way to pass a woman’s test is to actually BE the man.. not how to PRETEND to not be “under her spell” etc,
And how do you do this? You do this by understanding first of all what REAL confidence is, what the REAL reason behind all these “attractive behaviors” is… so for example the EYE contact for is not to so much to show that you are NOT AFRAID of her, but to show that you are confident enough to want to TRULY UNDERSTAND her, that you want to see her for who she really is… and the eye contact is also extremely impressive in a culture that says “no eye contact” a culture that says you should just “leave me ALONE…” when deep down people CRAVE a feeling of a special CONNECTION, and almost NO ONE is getting that connection!!!
So, when you actually DO all these things, that are actually a form of GIVING, guess what happens? You got it–a woman then sees there is NO NEED to test you in the FIRST place!!!!! If a woman is testing You all the time, then either she is the Wrong woman, or you are DOING things to MAKE her need to test you!!!!!
And definitely, following the “give her the arrogant behavior” and “sugar coated insults” and other behaviors that show untrustworthiness and shady character will all make her feel the NEED to test you for all sorts of things, from your manliness to your sense of integrity and honesty.
What you have just read is just a GLIMPSE into a whole other dimension that you can be living in with the woman of your dreams.
If you want to get the BIGGER PICTURE, and learn how to get a fantastic girlfriend, then download my special eBook package, “Get A Great Girl: How To Be The Man A Quality Woman Wants For Life”, IMMEDIATELY.
And I’ll see you again soon…
Your friend,
Bobby
